S.W.F

I HAVE AN ANNOUNCEMENT from the Save Wifeys Foundation:

"WIFEY'S" are an endangered species and are on the brink of EXTINCTION. WIFEY'S arch enemy, "THE HOE" has a population that is growing at an alarming rate and has nearly tripled the WIFEYS since 1995. If we don't act now, the HOES will completely wipe out the WIFEY species. PLEASE play your part in WIFEY conservation and help save our planet. Thank you.

Tia's comment: I think the only way to protect the Wifey Species from extinction is to have an annual Hoe Hunting season... I'm just saying, because when a dude has a girl around that is "wifey material", they don't want to "wife" her because they too busy with their hoes. Guys can't want to save the wifeys but stick with the hoes, it's contradicting. Wonder why the hoe population is growing at an alarming rate? It's because no one is able to save a man from being a hoe....in our society technically that's not possible. *shrugs*

Valid Excuses

Men do ish then after they've accomplished whatever they wanted to do...they give a "valid excuse" to excuse themselves...

• Women…have you ever been protective of your feelings and then you open up when HE comes along because it just takes too much energy to uphold that hard shell? Or are you the woman who wears her heart on her sleeve and give your heart so easily?

• Women tend to have a “soft spot” for men for some reason…..we forget about Self-Love because somewhere down the line that became a negative thing…a selfish thing….a “nonchalant” type of thing. You put yourself first and accomplish and do what makes YOU happy??? How DARE you! What’s wrong with you having a life just as he and being unavailable when he wants you to be available? Why is it OUR responsibility to find a man and cater to him? Are we not worth seeking after anymore?

      Men tend to persuade women into doing things they don’t want to do or even things they WANT to do but know they shouldn’t be doing, whether it’s sex or a relationship or going somewhere or buying something….pretty much anything. However, once they get the woman to do whatever it is they want her to do, they have this REVELATION (which is regret disguise as one) about how the woman shouldn’t have let it happen. All the while the woman thought they were traveling down this road together….thought it was a mutual thing (don’t we always).  In reality the two were in the same book…just on two different pages. She was STARTING the beginning and writing more chapters and He was at the end…FINISHED with the book. Now how did THAT happen?
      I guess it’s true what they say....men LOVE the chase…ya know like the dogs do…you know how they chase the cat then once they catch up to it and pin it down they have NO clue what to do with it so they either destroy it…or let it go. It’s a shame! Now not ALL men do this…there ARE GOOD men out there…PLEASE let us NOT overlook or forget about those. However, this note is NOT about you (maybe later when I find one I’ll make one about you..but NOT today so no need to take offense). But the PROBLEM is…we have NO-GOOD men actually thinking and believing that they ARE good men. I be wanting to say “What makes YOU so good…man” lol and they usually say because “I’m different” hahahaha “I’ve NEVER heard that before!” *sarcasm* that statement in itself makes you JUST LIKE everybody else.

• Have you noticed how men always take the “short cut” answers when you ask them a question? They answer you but it’s indifferent and can be perceived two ways. But then when you perceive it one way….”Na that ain’t what I meant” but in reality sir…That IS what you meant…that is what you just said minus the BS and sugar coding. Or maybe they answer “You’ll see” which isn’t an answer AT ALL…but is a shortcut or a “valid excuse” to excuse themselves from the question you wanted an answer to, because not even THEY know the answer to the question (but it’s better than lying and being put on blast for it later-I suppose).

      Hmmm…and what about this honesty thing? Men getting REAL bold these days. Honesty/Keeping it REAL is their “valid excuse” to be RUDE….For instance: Man- “I’m gonna keep it 100 with ya…I just want sex not looking for a relationship right now…I have to get myself right first and if you can’t understand that then I’ll find someone else who can.” Woman- “What?” SN: Mind you that these individuals have talked for months, talking texting daily, going on dates, had sex, and basically in a relationship (without the titles…just the actions). But oh Women! That’s where YOU allow them to throw you that “valid excuse” of “We not in a relationship” because there is NO title (I’ll come back to this) so what can you say? NOTHING! In his mind it’s YOUR fault you feel deceived because YOU let it happen, and not his fault that he changed his mind so abruptly about what he wants even though his actions exuding interest in you. In your mind you were doing/showing this man that you wanted him…right? By NOT talking to anyone else, spending time with him, being there for him, cooking for him, and expressing yourself…right? Why? Because if you didn’t then he probably wouldn’t have stuck around as long… right? Because there are too many of you (women) and he can just go elsewhere…whereas in YOUR case it’s not enough of him (men) so you give much of yourself than you should be giving and end up with nothing. And why do you give so much of yourself? Because he probably threw you that “valid excuse” of the fact that there are more women than men and that should be the reason you should act right and treat him good and do what he says. SMH….You probably so fascinated by his status, his looks, his sex, or those promises that you disregard his disrespect for you by putting you on hold by NOT giving you a title or the respect you deserve. Oh and behold if you do NOT give of yourself by showing interest…because then you’re just TOO complicated and they give up and STILL end up wasting your time and disregard the true ways you felt about him because he honestly didn’t know you felt that way because he was not interested enough to be patient and find out. #bummer

• Women we know right off bat how we see ourselves with a man we become acquainted with. We know if we want to screw this man and be fine with just that, we know if we want to possibly marry this man and have his babies, we know if we are curious just to see how things go, or if we are just not interested in this man intimately at all and he would make a fine friend! Lol Just as Men know…..These categories are what lead to titles of “boyfriend/girlfriend” “wifey/hubby” “junt” “buddy” “friend” “sister/brother” etc.

      Hmmm….Titles!? Must we go here? YES because titles are the reason for these “valid excuses” and what men try to excuse themselves from…Nowadays Men want physical satisfaction and women want mental, financial, and/or emotional satisfaction (men really just want a sex slave and women want a relationship-or a sponsor lol.) Now that within itself shows that women want TOO much and men don’t want enough. But is it REALLY “too much”? or is that another “valid excuse” men use to prevent us from getting what we deserve? Women deserve to be loved to be respected to be provided for to be cared for to be fulfilled to be desired…to be LOVED genuinely. Now you have men who do ALL these things…just with ALL the women. How “special” is that? Those are the men who use the “valid excuse” “I’m not ready to be in a relationship, I have self work to do”…now are you REALLY getting yourself together? Or are you just “spreading the love and giving the women what they want and making the unsatisfied ones satisfied?” lol Who deemed you the KING of Satisfaction? Who gave you this duty to be responsible for ALL the unsatisfied women? Can you not just start and be concerned with ONE and give her THE title of being YOUR woman? Nope! Because THEN you would have to back up those words/promises and give ACTUAL answers to your woman and THAT restricts you….right? You can’t spread that love anymore…you would have to SHARE that love over and over again…and that gets boring right? Sure it does! So that’s your “valid excuse” to NOT give the title because you don’t wanna mess up and back up all that talk…but you DO want the sex don’t you? You have more fun TRYING to get the woman to believe you instead of enjoying her trust in you when she believes everything you tell her. Oh dare she lets you know she trusts you and sees a future with you…that’s when she gets let go. The chase is over right? You don’t know what to do? Poor you! so you play along like this is what you want when it’s not….you really want to be a good man with a woman…but you just can’t right? And that’s another valid excuse for some men “I don’t to be with you and not act right….I’m doing this for both of us”…..

• Now in NO way am I TOTALLY putting the blame on Men. Women are to blame too because we allow it to happen. Even the women who are aware of these tricks and lies and this game get fooled too. How? Because of these “valid excuses”! What makes these excuses “valid” is the fact that Women ignore the signs. There are ALWAYS signs and we usually are aware but overthink the possibility of overreacting to certain things because some man told you to “chill out” and when we do “chill out” that’s when the “valid excuses” get by. We don’t want to “run the man away” so we overlook some things, we deal/ignore certain things that bother us, and suck up our emotions because no man wants a nagging woman …right? Of Course not….because there is some dumb woman out there who would happily deal with the foolishness and take your place….then you’re stuck thinking you did something wrong and “maybe it wasn’t that bad”.

      It just amazes me how this happens. Men have so much power over us and there isn’t a thing we can do really…If we knew and really BELIEVED we deserved more and women could actually come together and NOT settle and just not just be grateful a man is conversing with us and showing some kind of interest and if we could recognize as soon as we let our guard down and “stop the chase” he will be done….and it’s way more simple for him than for you because he only needs that one thing (physical satisfaction) whereas you require more needs than he that can only be found in something special…that can really be self-satisfied however you choose to share only to be tossed to the side and found elsewhere because there are too many of you and not enough him…so you take the “valid excuses” only to be used again…by the next man… the next go round… because you being a woman can not stop how you feel and what you want… you only adjust to what he wants only he doesn’t know what he wants and you can only adjust so much before you lose yourself in the process only to become someone who no longer interests him therefore he excuses himself and that change is what makes his excuse valid.



RollerCoaster Called LIFE!

Lately I've been feeling like I've been on this never ending roller coaster ride. When the ride started it took off kinda slow just enough for the wind to blow in my hair and make me feel safe and as if "Oh this isn't so bad."

Then we came to the hill and instead of the steady pace it began to speed up. Riding up this hill reminding me of the rush of my childhood, where I was so quick to be grown and mature. So quick to trust people and befriend anyone who smiled my way. Doing all the wrong things in such little time.

Then finally slowed down... SLOWED DOWN then suddenly SCREAMING! As I dropped down the unexpecting drop it began to drop slowly. Allowing me to recognize my wrongs and punished me until I was convinced to do right.

Finally the drop was over and returned back to the average speed allowing the wind to blow in my hair and the realization that I could overcome anything. Then I was introduced to the tunnel of LIFE.

Here in the tunnel it started off pitch black and the ride just stopped! No movement just me in my cart and all the people disappeared and it was only me. Then I saw two lights flash on. One Red one White.The tunnel had two paths... Here I was forced to make a decision...something I've always ran away from doing. Making a decision, on my own, no one there to ask any questions about what they thought I should do what did they think was best...just me... couldn't cry like I always do because I was forced to choose right then and there.No time to think, "What if I make the wrong choice?" So I chose...

Now what?

Well I pointed to the Red light and the cart began to move again fast and faster...and I saw that I was STILL in the tunnel....in this tunnel I found people! YAAAAY people! People like ME! YAAAAY me! Finally some company...I was no longer alone. I felt fresh and renewed and happy. It only lasted for so long then they too left as the people before them did. I was alone again.

Alone... riding this roller coaster all by my lonesome...sad...crying...why am I the one who always gets left behind? Why ME? I looked around and seen the empty seats and I felt empty. I looked out and seen the people who were like me...still smiling and laughing...but with each other and not with me. Why were they still able to smile and laugh without me?

I was so distraught I didn't even enjoy the wind blowing in my hair as I did before, nor noticed the pace at which I was going. However, I did notice that I was approaching the tunnel AGAIN. And again the tunnel was pitch black and the cart stopped moving. I put my head down and just cried..wondering...why am I here? What am I suppose to get from this? I just want my mother! I began to pray. Pray to God to give me the strength to endure this ride....

The ride of Endurance requires the power to withstand hardship or stress. That's exactly what this rollercoaster expresses. I've become familiar with this all too well...feels like I'm riding right into hell so I continue to fail. Failing to choose the correct the path. The path I keep choosing is causing me to lose the things that make me who I am. I just want PEACE and serenity! Please God somebody pray for me!! I'm approaching this hill again...then the tunnel AGAIN...red light? white light? Which shall I choose again? I think I'll go with white this time...

STILL in the tunnel...the cart is racing....more people...waaaaay more people before the first time. Some like me...some less like me....others nothing like me. However, as usual I think the best and know this will work out better than the rest. I must confess. I have doubts. Will these people leave? I don't know what to believe...anymore. Then a door appears...

(To Be Continued)

Patience: Read and Understand with Your Heart

 MY 2011 New Year's Resolution is to Learn PATIENCE!

Patience requires faith. Faith demands trust. In order to trust, you must know the truth. The truth is usually relative to our experiences.

Without patience we worry, we complain, and sometimes we give up hope.

We do do understand that a delay is not a denial, and that if we faithfully trust the truth, we would find it a lot less difficult to employ patience.

The greatest challenge to the development of patience is being able to wait for tangible evidence that your efforts are paying off. We have a fixed idea of what we want and what it will look like when it shows up. We hold that idea so firmly that often we are unable to detect that the very thing we want has actually arrived. If it doesn't look like the way we thought it would, or if it does not feel the way we imagined it would, we are unable to detect it's presence.

You have to have TOTAL and COMPLETE trust in the WISDOM of the Divine, believing that trials and tribulations are a greater good that have to manifest as a result.

1. You are going to be tested by fire! However, there are ALWAYS things we do not know and cannot see. When these unknown, unseen consequences show themselves in our lives, we must steadfast believing in the wisdom of the spiritual laws of the universe, knowing that the best is yet to come. You must have TRUST to be PATIENT!

2. You must not allow the wind to rattle your core. A hard-blowing wing will rip the leaves from the branches. It will cause WEAK limbs of a tree to snap. It may even cause some pretty large branches to snap off. A wind however cannot affect the core, the inner essence of a sturdy tree (or even a BACKBONE, the thing that hold everyone together). When a gusty wind blows through your life, you must retreat to your core. YOU MUST NOT BREAK. YOU MUST HAVE FAITH AND BE PATIENT!

3. Spirit and things of spiritual nature do not work on your time schedule. You are not in control! You are in a process of spiritual unfolding, and in the that process, whether you like it or not, spirit will use you every experience possible to ensure that your development is on schedule, a SPIRITUAL schedule that is. You cannot watch the clock or calendar. You must watch YOUR HEART, KNOW THE TRUTH, AND BE PATIENT with your unfolding process.

Patience is more than the ability to wait at the bus stop for forty minutes. It is so much more tahn being able to control several four year olds while watching your favorite show. Patience is the demonstration of your willingness to surrender total and complete control to the wisdom of God. It is the ability to discern the unfolding of a goal in the midst of a windstorm. It is knowing your efforts are paying off even when there is no tangible evidence to support that belief. Patience is being able to retreat to your core when you are being challenged and pull up everything in your arsenal of truth that will glorify the presence of the Divine in your being. PATIENCE IS KNOWING THAT YOU HAVE DONE YOUR BEST, AND THAT WHAT WILL BE ON THE TEST IS WHAT YOU ALREADY KNOW.

SO REMEMBER....

TRUST, TRUTH, AND FAITH ARE THE FOUNDATION OF PATIENCE.

FOR EVERYTHING THERE IS A SEASON.

I AM NOT IN CONTROL.

A STRONG WIND CANNOT DISTURB MY CORE.

DIVINE TIME AND DIVINE ORDER ARE GUARANTEES OF MY DIVINE GOOD.

THERE IS MORE THAN I CAN SEE GOING ON.

GOOD PERFECT PERSON

I BELIEVE THAT THERE ARE SOME GOOD GUYS/GIRLS OUT THERE "POSITIVE THERE IS!" BUT THEY ARE ALSO TAKEN OR UNATTRACTIVE AND IF THEY AIN'T IT'S DEFINITELY SOMETHING WRONG WITH THEM (GAY OR PIMP PIMP PLAYA PLAYA). I THINK PEOPLE EITHER DON'T KNOW WHAT THEY WANT.... OR THEY KNOW WHAT THEY WANT BUT AIN'T READY FOR IT...I THINK PEOPLE ARE SCARED OF A CHALLENGE AND JUST GO FOR THE EASIEST THING BECAUSE WE AS HUMANS DON'T LIKE REJECTION...WE DEVELOP THIS "THING" IN OUR MIND LIKE THERE IS NO ONE OUT THERE WHO HAS OUR BEST INTEREST AT HEART..THEREFORE WE TRY TO HIDE OUR "VULNERABLE PLACE" .. OUR HEARTS!


HOWEVER WHEN THE RIGHT PERSON IS FOUND.. THEY ARE THE BEST ...IT'S LIKE FINDING A POT OF GOLD AT THE END OF A RAINBOW (not likely to happen) AND MOST PEOPLE THINK THEY DON'T DESERVE THEM AND PUSH THEM AWAY BECAUSE THEY ARE NOT USE TO BEING TREATED LIKE THEY SHOULD...THEREFORE THAT ONCE USED TO BE GOOD PERFECT PERSON GETS HURT AND LIKE A COWARD RUNS AWAY FROM THE NEXT GOOD PERFECT PERSON THAT MIGHT COME THEIR WAY DUE TO WHAT THE PREVIOUS PERSON DID AND THEY ARE AFRAID TO GET HURT AGAIN. SOMETIMES WHEN WE HAVE FOUND THAT PERFECT GOOD PERSON WE TEND TO TRY TO FIND SOMETHING WRONG BECAUSE WE THINK "SOMETHING GOTTA BE WRONG!" "THIS PERSON CAN'T POSSIBLY BE AS GOOD AS THEY SEEM." HOWEVER IT'S SO HARD TO LET THAT PERSON GO BECAUSE YOU KNOW IN YOUR HEART THAT THEY REALLY ARE THAT GOOD PERFECT PERSON AND YOU KNOW THAT YOU ARE NOT. WE HAVE THE TENDENCY TO DO WHAT WE DO AND ASSUME THAT THE OTHER PERSON MUST BE DOING IT TOO WHICH IS WHERE TRUST ISSUES COME IN.


SOMETIMES WE EVEN TRY TO HOLD ON TO THAT GOOD PERFECT PERSON BUT HAVE OUR WAY WITH SOMEONE ELSE JWHO MAY SEEM A LITTLE BIT MORE FUN OR INTERESTING THAN THE GOOD PERFECT PERSON...WE ALL KNOW PERFECT IS BORING OR WE MIGHT JUST WANT TO SEE IF THAT GOOD PERFECT PERSON REALLY IS THE PERSON FOR US OR JUST TO SEE HOW QUICK THAT GOOD PERFECT PERSON MOVES ON AFTER WE "TEST" THEM BY LETTING THEM GO. SOMETIMES WE WAIT TO LATE AND THAT GOOD PERFECT PERSON IS GONE FOREVER OTHER TIMES (rarely) THAT GOOD PERFECT PERSON IS STILL THERE...WAITING...BECAUSE WHILE YOU HAD TO TEST YOUR FEELINGS FOR THEM THEY ALREADY KNEW THEY WANTED YOU.

In Response to a FB Status...Agree or Disagree?

In response to my previous status: "MEN ARE SO FREAKIN HILARIOUS! THEY HAVE YET TO REALIZE THAT THEY ARE ALL THE SAME...SOME WITH MORE PERKS THAN OTHERS BUT STILL END UP WITH THE SAME RESULTS!"

I have found so many women comment on it and feeling what I'm saying and have had guys respond as well telling me how they disagree, but once I argue my point they have NO CHOICE but to agree....

I'm not trying to down ALL MEN! It's just this is REALLY a proven fact not even a theory....


IT'S JUST THAT I FEEL LIKE I'M IN A TWILIGHT ZONE.... ALL I KEEP HEARING FROM DUDES ARE "I'M A MAN NOT A BOY I'M GROWN" BLAH BLAH I CAN DO THIS I BELIEVE IN THIS BLAH BLAH I CAN TREAT U LIKE THIS BLAH BLAH AND ALL I ASK IS BLAH BLAH AND THEN WHEN U GIVE THEM A CHANCE CAUSE THEY DON TALKED THEMSELVES UP SO GOOD AND U THINK THEY GOT SOME SENSE AND NOT LIKE THE AVERAGE LOW DOWN FELLOW....THEY TURN OUT TO BE THE LOW DOWN FELLOW UNDERCOVER AND SLICK PSYCHOTIC! I MEAN THEY END UP ORGETTING THIS WORD CALLED RESPECT AND BEGIN TO MOVE OO FAST IT'S LIKE DAMN DO U NOT HAVE ANY SELF CONTROL? WHAT HAPPENED TO THIS AND THAT U SAY U NOT LIKE THE REST WHAT U DOIN? AND THEY RESPONSE IS WE GROWN BABY WE AIN'T GOTTA PLAY AROUND OR SOMETHING OF THAT SORT IT'S LIKE DAMN OK BEING GROWN THESE DAYS MEAN YOU SHOULD LOSE ALL RESPECT FOR YOURSELF YOUR MORALS YOUR VALUES JUST CAUSE "WE GROWN"? WTF! AND THEN ONCE U TURN THEM DOWN AND TRY TO KEEP YOUR SELF RESPECT ALL THAT "PERFECT MAN" CRAP GO OUT THE WINDOW AND THEY DISAPPEAR AND DON'T WANT TO DEAL WIT U CAUSE U "CHILDISH" AND THEY LOKING FOR A "WOMAN" AND THEN THE TYPE OF DUDES WHO ARE WILLING TO GIVE U THE WORLD END UP BEING THE "CONTROLLING" TYPE THEY THINK JUST CAUSE THEY GIVE U THIS AND THAT THAT THEY CAN TELL U WHAT TO DO AND WHEN TO DO IT LIKE U OWE THEM SOMETHIN... LIKE DAMN I THOUGHT U WERE BEING NICE JUST TO BE NICE CAUSE U SAID IT'S WHAT U DO BUT GUYS DON'T WANNA HEAR THAT THEY JUST KNOW WHAT THEY WANT AND EXPECT TO GET IT!

AND THAT'S ANOTHER THING! EVERY GUY CLAIMS THEY NOT LIKE THE NEXT GUY WHICH IN ITSELF PROVES THAT ALL GUYS ARE ALIKE JUST WHEN THEY SAY THAT STATEMENT RIGHT THERE AND ALL GUYS WANT THEIR OWN CATEGORY WHICH AGAIN PROVES WHAT I'M SAYING AND THEN THEY ALL WANNA BE MEN YET ACT LIKE BOYS!

I know it's some of you out there who might feel like most guys saying :

I hear ya!!! You're right!!! Everything you said is right!!! Men do that, as well as boys. But real men respect themselves and women. I can say that cause that's how I was raised!!! You'll know when you are dealing with a real man cause a real man don't just talk, they prove their word from the first thought of what they do. Fuck talking!!! Actions speak louder than words so, I feel, every man is entitled to the opinion they are a good man. But who really is a good man? I know i'm a good guy and I know any women I know would agree. But the catch with me is, like you said, the good guys change after a while, which makes it hard for me cause that's the way women think I am cause of what guys do. I never ask a woman to give me her all from the jump. I ask that she allow me to earn her all. And in exchange, I give my all!!! the male, mind is typically on sex, a boy's mind is sex and outside beauty, a dogs mind is body and sexual experience and reputation, but a real man' mind i about brains. I can't talk to a woman that doesn't have the sense God gave wood. Furthermore, alot of guys, can't really be blamed for what they do. Most of it come from home, streets, or some other role model. But a man who has been raised around nothing but women and has been made and formed into the perfect man by a woman is VERY hard to find. and I am happy to say that's me. I apologize for my gender and the issues they are causing today's women, but please don't allow them to continue to make it hard for the true guys like me. PLEASE???

But I mean HEY! IT IS WHAT IT IS!.....

I know it's also possible for MEN to be hurt by WOMEN, but PLEASE don't fault the WOMEN for their actions. We act on our feelings, meaning some BOY has broken our hearts before you saying all the sweet nothings your saying right now and we feel like life is repeating itself it didn't work out THEN and it won't work out NOW! So just be patient don't give up so easily it's pittiful that you have to suffer for what the PREVIOUS guy (who as nothing to do with you) is allowing you to miss out on what could be the love of your life. And ladies don't be so hard on these guys LOVE is about taking RISKS and to truly LOVE you have to SACRIFICE your heart! Now I could on and on and on and on about this topic but I'm going to end it here! I want to hear from YOU do you agree? or disagree?

HERE'S TO....

 (A mix of me and various quotes that make a complete thought)

HERE'S TO THE.....

GUYS THAT LOVE ME!!!!!!!!!

THE LOSERS WHO LOST ME!!!!!!!!

& THE LUCKY GUYS WHO GET TO MEET ME!!!



The girl you need is right before your eyes! Whether it's as a friend, best friend or lover. If you can't HANDLE me at my WORST.. You don't DESERVE me at my BEST! I fall for players yet I play the same game. Every girl has that ONE GUY who she can't love, won't love, or doesn't love.. but everytime she sees him her heart skips a beat... and he's the ONLY one who stays on her mind.. but she knows there is NO CHANCE.. so she keeps living putting on that smile that hides her feelings, so he won't ever know... and I'm that girl that will smile like NOTHING is wrong..Talk like everything is PERFECT act like it's all a dream and pretend he's not hurting me. The funny thing is he doesn't even know what he's doing to me on the inside and how much it ACTUALLY hurts! Oh but don't worry sweetie you didn't BREAK ME no you completely destroyed me. Those beautiful eyes of yours put the city lights to shame... there will always be those akward times when we look at each other and remember how things used to be and if one day I actually START to matter...please let me know. Ya know maybe some women aren't meant to be tamed...maybe they're just suppose to run wild until they find someone to RUN WITH. I used to think I had a cold heart but I realized I was just acting like a man. The most exciting, challenging, and significant relationship is with yourself. And if you find someone to love and who loves you..that's FABULOUS! But really what is love? And how can you love and not know the TRUE definition of it? Guys say they love us..we echoe it back..but then it's over in an instant snap...did he REALLY love me like he said? Or was the meaning messed up in his head? How can they cheat then be so kind? I guess this is why so many people are confused about love.

MISSUnderstanding...Think About it!

Isn't it ironic how we ignore the ones who adore us. Adore the ones who ignore us. Love the ones who hurt us and hurt the ones who love us? HA! A simple phrase that was once just a simple phrase. However as I go through life so much seems to change. Friends that were once my friend have went their separate ways never returning again or have slowly became enemies without my awareness. Funny how people change or how people plot up stuff in their mind or think something totally different for a while from their current actions. And then you end up looking like the fool and the joke is on you.

Hmmmmm....it's so easy to point out the flaws in someone else's situation however when you're placed in that situation that finger does't point out as quickly. It's also hilarious how we can know the right thing to do in wrong situations before we even do it and still do wrong. Why do we do this? I don't know but I learn from all wrong situations so I can never have to experience them again. People will fool you and take advantage of you without your awarness and when you do become aware you will be in too deep to dig yourself out or change what is bound to happen. Too bad we don't see it coming before it hits us. Or do we? Do we see it and deny what is actually happening because we think we can trust our own instincts about certain people whom we THINK we know so well but don't know at ALL! No one can truely say what the next person is not capable of, because you never know what is REALLY on a person's mind until......BOOM!.....it clows up out of no where when you least expect it, and you'll be like WTF?! I've found it is TRUE what they say about friends...REAL ones last a lifetime, whereas others are in your life for a reason or a season....THINK about it.....why are your friends? Do you REALLY know them? The answer is NO!

No matter how well or how LONG you have known them you really don't know them. SAD TO SAY.... And I don't understand how people allow other people to change what is meant to be. We listen to other people tell us about ourselves everyday all day and we change our lives and feelings towards people and things according to what someone else has told us. THINK ABOUT IT! We let people determine what we wear, how we act, friends, and relationships. So are there REALLY any leaders out there? Does ANYONE think for themselves anymore? No matter how we think we aren't affected about what is said we really are, but we shouldn't be. We should be able to make our own decisions and trust our own judgement right? Yeah right....but WHAT IS THAT?

Case of the EX!

HAHAHA! People are so funny! I guess it's true that you don't know what you had until it's gone! And when it's gone just move on, at least that's what I say! Do you ever feel even more hurt when you find out the person you messed up with moves on before you do? So you ACT like you moved on or quickly just get any ole body just so you can say you got somebody too? That's no good, you will only be hurting yourself and somebody else. And more than likely that person you messed up with is laughing at you especially if they know you better than you know yourself! Don't be blue, they didn't mean to hurt you!

The Words He Said...

As I sit here and write my mind takes flight
I don't know how it's gonna end up but it feels so right.
Her heart it feens for the words he told her
the words that made her so NOT her.
Isn't it AMAZING how one person can have you FADING
FADING away from what makes you YOU
having control oh the things you do
The things you do that makes you untrue
Untrue to youself to your friends who thought you were there till the end
but instead she was there in his bed, legs spread, even giving him head why? Because of the words he said.
The words he spoke were so strong she HAD to hold on.
Hold on because as they say "What you won't do another woman will do..."
Oh is that true, "Yes Boo I do Love You"....
are his words in return as she allows him to toss and turn her
In his mind he's thinking about what's wrong wit her, is she some kind of fool?
A fool to believe that I could ever love her
She on the other hand
is thinking "yeah he's my man and no one understands",
then the phone rings...
Then he says he's done! Done? Done! Done wit her and all the shit they been through "I NEVER loved you, you were just something I wanted to go through."
He says as he answers the phone
what's that she hears? a female voice? Oh baby...
"Yes, boo you know you my number one lady!" He says to the otha ...
and hangs up
while she sits lookin like you motherfucka!
"After I just gave myself to you THIS is how you do?"
"Babygirl this is how it goes, I got plenty hoes,
why you trippin you got what you wanted
a chance to jump up on it"
"THIS isn't what I wanted,I wanted "the chance"
the chance to be wit you forever
I don't want anotha lover!"
"Yeah that's fine and dandy but
I got to go back to my girl Randy she's waitin..."
The words he said....the words that made her feel good
turned to be words she misunderstood....
the words he said...the words that made her lose her friends were the things that made her put her life to an end FOREVER....the words he said...
If there's no him there is no her...words he once said

A REAL MAN?

You asked me what it takes to be with a girl like me.
Well Ima answer that question especially for you,
that way you can have somewhat of a clue.
It takes a guy who would never lie,
and someone who would treat me NEW.
See me, Im looking for a guy who will always be and stay true.
I need someone who can be there for me when no one else can,
I need one of those guys who wouldn't qualify as your everyday type of typical man.
I want to be with someone who will never do me wrong,
one of those amazing men that I can talk and brag about all day long.
A guy who can treat me with nothing but respect,
someone who will love me for me and know that I am not completely perfect.
I want someone who I can personally be glad to claim as my own,
a guy who's gonna stick around for awhile and not jus' up and be gone.
I need a man that's gonna keep it real,
one who knows how to express everything he truly feels.
Me, Im lookin' for a man like no other,
one who stands out and has something about him that glows from within.
I want one of those dominant religious men,
one who believes in God and is in touch with his spirituality from deep within.
To be honest Ima lay it all flat out for you to understand,
I'm looking for my definition of what I would call a REAL MAN.